Since the parent(s) and newborn are spending their first few precious days at home
together instead of in the hospital, here are some common sense visitor rules:
- DO call before you come by to arrange a visit at a time convenient for the parents. Evenings are usually the worst time for parents.
- DO keep your visits short. 15-20 minutes is good.
- DO bring food offerings. Suppers come in handy. You can bring frozen dishes or plan in advance to serve an entire meal.
- DO praise new parents about their growing parenting skills.
- DO offer your opinion – when asked for it
- DO offer to wash some dishes, take home some laundry, vacuum, etc.
- DO offer to look after older siblings.
- DO respect the parents’ need to do their own thing in their own way in their own time.
- DO listen to the birth story – every time it is told.
- DO NOT bring the whole family and settle in for a long visit
- DO NOT accept offers of tea or coffee unless you make it and clean up afterwards
- DO NOT tell the parent that you hate the baby’s name
- DO NOT smoke
- DO NOT give advice – unless asked for it.
- DO NOT expect the new mother to leave the room to nurse her baby
- DO NOT ask to hold the baby. Wait for an offer
- DO NOT visit if you are feeling even a tiny bit ill
Though these rules are presented with good humour – please take them seriously.
Help to make this time of rest and recovery as smooth as possible.